Posts Tagged ‘Tampa Individual’

One of the most important propositions, which underlie the entire idea of cooperation, is the ability to participate in the give and take of life. To achieve a satisfying marriage of equality and cooperation, which in turn will lead to felicity and lifelong happiness, it is necessary for you to give in—TO REFUSE TO FIGHT- and to GO ALONG WITH YOUR MATE- out of strength and confidence and not out of weakness. By taking the position and keeping to it, you can change, improve, and save your marriage. Your stubbornness, being always “right,” and demanding your own way, and the like will doom your marriage to unhappiness.

We all have this distorted picture, in our society, where we grow up with this constant fear that we are not good enough, constantly being humiliated, constantly a threat of making mistakes being a failure. In our lifestyles we find an escape from the danger if I can’t please, I am not good enough, if I am the first one I am good enough, if I can make other people do what I want, if I can fight my way through, I am good enough. We find in the lifestyle this pessimism, this doubt, which we try to overcompensate on this vertical plane. So we try to be somebody by trying to be more. Once we free ourselves with the idea that we are good enough as we are, we don’t need this accomplishment to be somebody, then we are free from fear and we see all the energy come forward and we can devote ourselves to the task.

Rudolf Dreikurs