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Regarded by many as “the conscience of psychiatry” for his efforts to promote mental wellness and reform health care, Dr. Breggin is a staunch advocate against the over-diagnosis and overuse of psychiatric medications, the oppressive drugging of children, electroshock “therapy,” and fictitious biological theories promoting “chemical imbalances” in the brain. Dr. Breggin will present a full-day workshop on psychiatric drug withdrawal in children. For more information go to: www.adlerflorida.org.

“Adults adopt the stance of being “cool” and free from intense feelings of any sort. But such counter-valuing is another form of suppressing our highest nature:

If you are a man and you are are not struck dumb by your woman once in a while, you’re missing something, you’re being blind to something which is there—and vice versa, of course. As a matter of fact, there is as much de-sacrilizing of the male by our females as there is the other way around. It’s just isn’t done. Its permitted, I think, still for a husband to adore his wife: that is, to get really sloppy about it in a nice way. I don’t think it’s possible anymore for a woman to get sloppy about their husbands. I think that is forbidden.”

Abraham Maslow in The Right to Be Human, by Ed Hoffman

“You cannot solve your problems by taking psychoactive substances that impair your mind and the expression of your sprit. From illegal drugs to psychiatric medications, drugs suppress and distort our real emotions and should be avoided, especially in time of suffering and fear when we need to know what we are feeling to control our actions.”

Peter Breggin, M.D., Medication Madness

By Cameron W. Meredith, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus

It is educational and psychological madness that:

1. While everyone agrees on the tremendous value of education in our democracy, we provide only 180 days of public school education.
2. While there is considerable agreement on the psychological principle of spaced learning we jam it all in long school days and homework only 9 months of the year.
3. We all know about newer and encouraging psychology such as Adlerian and Third Force Psychology, we still practice first force psychology namely behaviorism and obedience training called assertive discipline with belief in punishment and bribing.
4. While, since WWII, we believe in freedom and democracy, we still have too many autocratic schools and families practicing order without freedom as well as compulsory homework.
5. While we all agree on the value of cooperation, the helping relationship, and getting along together, we impose competition in our classrooms namely the ABCDF grading system where helping or receiving help is considered cheating.
6. While we all know how encouraging it is to have the freedom to choose and, when we invite and involve students in an atmosphere of freedom and cooperation, they become more responsible and feel that they belong, we are often inclined to tell them what to do and learn with few if any choices.
7. While we do a pretty good job of imparting knowledge and encouraging memorization in preparation tests, we often do a poor job in teaching the use of knowledge for daily living.
8. While there is considerable need for compulsory school attendance in a democracy for thirteen years, there is little agreement on the length of the school day. There is pressure to lengthen the school day. Almost all teachers demand homework as if it is compulsory. Then, as if mandated, there is three months with no school.

Every day Geri and I have clients come in convinced by some one that they have a chemical imbalance, brain damage, genetic defect, or traumatized from the past. In short victims of their biology or heredity. We believe that the symptoms are real but the cause of their problem is misleading. Perhaps a better description for their symptoms is “unhappiness”. If they could change the opinion they have of their self and know what choices to make with an important relationship in their life, an improvement in their mental health would occur. In short, they feel happy.

This includes the variety of symptoms we see from anxiety, depression, anger, ADHD, to the more serious bi-polar.

William Glasser does a better job of describing what I am attempting to say when he writes:

“How can such a common, easily understood word such as unhappiness possible describe all the misery and mayhem that exists around us? My answer is: unhappiness is not simple. . . . it can appear in our lives in many different forms and lead to a myriad of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that puzzle, frighten, and disturb us. Severe unhappiness can lead to bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and chronic, excruciating pain with no pathology to explain it, as in the condition called fibromyalgia.

A more accurate title for the DSM-IV would be The Big Red Book of Unhappiness. No matter how we experience it, almost every symptom can be traced back to its origin: relationships that lack love, respect, or both. By making choices that help us stay connected with each other, the unhappiness can be over come. Caring and respecting, never controlling, are the cornerstones of mental health.” (p. 57)

William Glasser, Warning Psychiatry May Be Hazardous to Your Mental Health

You cannot deny the power of social networking.

20+ years ago, someone would give you a phone number if they wanted you to contact them.
10 years ago, it became an email address that most would hand out first.
Today, it’s a “friend request” on a social network!

Carter & Evans Marriage and Family Therapy has joined the Facebook community: Carter & Evans on Facebook

We will be using Facebook and our Blog here to keep our clients, friends, and partners updated with news and events for everything from local group meetings to resources for learning more about Adlerian psychology.

We look forward to seeing you!

Carter & Evans Marriage and Family Therapy
Tampa, Florida