“In your practice you are running into some difficult people and almost all difficult people are people who come because they want you to counsel them to change someone else. That is really quite impossible, but you could certainly work on it and explain the basic Choice Theory point that the only person’s behavior we can control is our own and the only person we can help is ourselves and any attempt to do so otherwise is relatively non-productive. When someone defines the problem as a medical problem, as it points out in the new booklet, that is what psychiatrists believe. They are still hooked on the medical school and don’t really believe that the problem is a relationship problem and not a medical problem as you are finding out with your clients. As you said, the solution is the “relationship solution” and that is what really works.”
William Glasser, Private Correspondents, March 29, 2007