How to Improve Your Life; Stop Irritating the One You Love
The only person whose behavior we can change/control is our own - no one makes us do something we do not want to do. If you understand this than you can begin to redefine your personal freedom.
How much time is spent trying to get someone (spouse or child) to do what he or she does not want to do? How much of your time is spent resisting others who are trying to get you to do something you do not want to do? Your task is to take care of your own well-being. Conflict occurs when you take on your child’s or spouse well-being. You can encourage them to convey they have the strength to deal with life’s challenges. However, overall, it’s best to mind your own business. Unsolicited advice conveys to your love one they cannot mange life.
You can get out of the trap. You regain a lot of freedom that you voluntary gave-up when you felt responsible for another person's behavior. Change yourself and you change the relationship. When parents change kids develop.
It would be a better use of time focused on what you can do to improve the quality of the relationships. Begin by deciding not to fight but a willingness to problem solve and a commitment not to use the Deadly. Habits. This is accomplished by learning to control your own behavior. You can give-up worrying about what the other person should or should not be doing. What can you do to improve the situation with your own behavior? You hold the cards. This can provide hope and encouragement. You can be right, or you can have satisfying relationships, you cannot do both.