Interesting ideas on Love & Marriage
1. It’s not finding the "right" person to marry as much as meeting someone
who wants to work things out.
2. To keep a marriage going we need to:
A.Learn how to enjoy each other's company.
B.Learn how to spend time together.
C.Learn how to encourage each other.
D.Have fun together.
3. The key to a healthy marriage is equality. It boils down to a couple
living as equally dignified human beings. Trouble moves in when one
person feels "less than."
4. You’re in a good marriage when you and your spouse want more of the
same and you do not try to change each other. Attempting to change each
other leads to trouble. It conveys you are not good enough. "You need to
do more in order to become a full fledge person."
5. All couples know how to communicate. It’s how they use their
communication that makes the difference. Do they communicate to hurt
or punish? Do they reflect feelings and are sensitive to feel
superior, that they know how to truly be intimate? Do they use their
communication to solve the problems before them? Without respect
"improved communications" becomes a weapon and not a tool! Couples
could benefit more from learning conflict resolution skills, useful
cooperation, and encouragement skills more than many of the popular
methods now being taught.
6. Some Characteristics That Create An Encouraging Marriage
A.Work for improvement, not perfection.
B.Build on strengths, not weaknesses.
C.Show you believe in your spouse’s decision making.
D.Mistakes can be viewed as challenges for you as a couple to solve.
E.Failures will stimulate special effort when there remains hope of
eventual success.
F.Convey that you only want more of the same and be especially alert to
the subtle ways you may convey to your spouse to be different. You
married them just as they are.