A meaningful relationship is central to the good life. Meeting someone (getting together) and then staying together are one of life’s biggest challenges.

Happiness is staying connected to the important person in your life. Mental health is knowing what choices to make in order to stay connected.

It's most distressing when two decent people are in a committed relationship and unable to relate in peace and harmony. Many relationships are in jeopardy because the couple does not know how to deal with their incompatibilities. Unfortunately, the situation does not have to be this way. No matter how bad your relationship is, or what has occurred, it can be improved if two conditions exists, goodwill and knowledge. You must supply the goodwill.  If you supply the good will, then we will supply the knowledge. Your interest in improving the relationship (good will), combined with our knowledge of human nature and couple dynamics will result in you changing your relationship.

Unlike individual therapy, couple therapy usually consists of conjoint interviews. If your partner will not go see a therapist, then on your own, without any help from your partner, you can improve and maybe save your relationship. An experienced therapist will provide you with some ideas to interest your partner in counseling.

In general couples therapy can be categorized into four separate but related areas of clinical endeavor:

  1. Premarital. This is preparation for marriage where the therapists provide education and guidance to the couple. The couple evaluates their compatibility and ability to solve problems together.
  2. Marital. This is still a learning procedure but here the couple changes their concepts about themselves, their movement towards each other, and toward life. They must get out of the fight in order for change to occur.
  3. Divorce. Divorce is a continuation of the marriage. Couples can go from an unhappy marriage to a miserable divorce if the conflict and resentment are not reduced. This process may involve deciding if you want to stay together, how to end the relationship, and building a new life. We encourage couples to mediate their differences (How To Navigate Your Divorce With Confidence) but when necessary we have several attorneys interested in your families' welfare.
  4. Remarriage/Blended Families. Remarriage has its own unique concerns. Most importantly you want to avoid creating another troubled marriage. There is also a new set of challenges with your children. Upon remarrying everything is doubled in terms of cooperation: in-laws, children, aging parents, ex-spouses, on-going litigation, and financial concerns from the previous marriage and/or divorce.

In some cases where a couple is so discouraged and contemplating divorce, we advise meeting with both Geri and Tim. We recommend this occurs in a relaxed atmosphere, such as on a Saturday morning and over an extended period of time. Often traditional therapy, with its once a week, 50-minute sessions, is not suffice in resolving the marital concerns. During this two to four hour session you will gain information and knowledge in terms of how to save your marriage and in some cases the proper way to end a relationship. These sessions are not covered by insurance. This is less expensive than a divorce, it's an investment in your self, relationship, and family. Your partner is the most significant person in your life even when things are going poorly.